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Dawn Vandever
Feb 14

Fear & Discipline

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KEEPING KIDS SAFE Fear & Discipline

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only saps today of its joy.” ~Leo Bucaglia

Being a parent is not easy. We want to give the best to our children & provide an environment where they can grow & thrive. When it comes to their safety, we worry a lot. From the moment they are born, we fear for their safety & well-being. As they grow, our fears change & it's so easy to structure our discipline according to our fears, to the point where we are doing everything for our children. This is not fair to us, & definitely not fair to our children. How do we discipline our children without our fears getting in our way?


The one thing we have to realize is that we cannot do everything for our children. They are their own people. We can give them our knowledge & exemplify how we navigate through life, however, we cannot live their life for them. Nor are we with them 24/7. They will be in situations that are outside our control. The point of discipline is to internally cultivate awareness & develop the self-control to assess any given situation & act on the best possible solution that is good for you & for everyone else within that moment. That is difficult to do, & keep in mind, parenting is a discipline on to itself! Despite our worries, we have to remember that parenting is a journey & our children emulate our behaviors based on the choices we make. Discipline can be fun where you are including your child to participate in life, teaching them your own interpretation on how you live based on our nature as human beings. The most important lesson that we can teach our children is that within our nature we can be compassionate & act with kindness; but we can also be egocentric, & do horrendous things out of fear. Through discipline, we show our children why we choose to be & how we choose to be the people that we are; cultivating within them, an instinctual sense of being around people that are compassionate versus being around people with ill intentions. By having this instinctual sense, children can make decisions that can safeguard against potential predators, therefore, avoiding trauma.


So go forth & be with your child. Pass on to them the joys of being human. Whatever sorrows they face tomorrow, your morality on what it means to be human will always be with them.

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